Tuesday, October 19, 2010

A Roundup of Things that Rock

I thought I'd do a roundup of some interesting things that have tickled my fancy lately. Even though I don't always blog, I am pretty addicted to the internet. (Ryan finds it terribly annoying.)

1. Wear purple on Wednesday in memory of gay teen suicides. I think this idea is great. From the site:
After a spate of suicides among LGBT US teenagers, people across the world will wear purple tomorrow to honour their memory. More than 1.3 million people have pledged on Facebook to mark ‘Spirit Day’, which was created by Canadian teenager Brittany McMillan.

Ms McMillan wrote on the Facebook page: “It’s been decided. On October 20th, 2010, we will wear purple in memory of the recent gay suicides.

“Many of them suffered from homophobic abuse in their schools or in their homes. We want to take a stand to say that we will not tolerate this.Purple represents spirit on the LGBTQ flag and that’s exactly what we’d like all of you to have with you: spirit. Please know that times will get better and that you will meet people who will love you and respect you for who you are, no matter your sexuality.

"Please wear purple on October 20th to remember all the lives of LGBTQ youth that have been lost due to homophobia. Tell your friends, family, co-workers, neighbours and schools.”
2. Take Action. End Fat Talk. The goal of this site is to get people to stop talking "fat talk" about their bodies for this week. According to the site, 10 million women are dealing with eating disorders in this country and their hope is to set a more positive tone to the conversation. Very cool.

3. I thought this Sesame Street video was full of win:

4. I love this quote by Cynthia Nixon:

“Gay people who want to marry have no desire to redefine marriage in any way. When women got the vote they did not redefine voting. When African-Americans got the right to sit at a lunch counter alongside white people, they did not redefine eating out. They were simply invited to the table…We have no desire to change marriage. We want to be entitled to not only the same privileges, but the same responsibilities as straight people.”
5. Get catcalled? Why not get some cat-calling cards? With gems like "Fuck off" and "You will die bitter and alone," it kind of makes this gal wish she had some use for them.

6. I forgot about this video of Michel Martin pwning Dr Laura, but I thought it was still worth a post. Seriously, Michel Martin is my new girl crush.

I have a tendency to get carried away so I think that's a nice place to stop. Hope you guys like the links! I'm off to pick up my monster from school.


  1. Awesome, awesome, awesome, more awesome, also awesome, very awesome.

    I really like the end fat talk thing. I sometimes feel like I'm not supposed to say anything about this because "boo hoo, I'm thin, who cares?" but I hate being called skinny, and when I protest that I'm not actually skinny, people think I'm putting myself down. I'm not. And I think maybe if people didn't put so many value judgments on size and appearance, I could say "hey, I'm a petite person with big hips and thighs and a squishy middle" and have that just be how I look rather than something I need to be talked out of. And I'm not trying to say that skinny is bad either, just that it's not what I am, and I don't like being called something I'm not, especially when I'm quite happy with what I am. I halfway think I should just stop whining when I talk about that, but then, it's only because society thinks skinny somehow equals good that I feel pressure to shut up and try to just be happy that someone thinks I'm skinny. Did that make any sense at all?

    Sesame Street video: very cool. That made me happy.

    The Cynthia Nixon quote was brilliant. I think I need to share that on my tumblr or something.

    I'd never heard of Michel Martin before, but holy crap that was awesome! I think I also need to share that.

    So much awesome in one place! I think my head might explode.

  2. haha I'm glad you liked it! And you make make perfect sense. It's kind of like the idea that white people can't talk about their own racial issues without it being immediately disregarded. The idea is that if some people see it as beneficial then you have no right to bitch about it. Big breasts is another good example. Go forbid a woman with big breasts actually have an opinion less then glowing about them.

    My boyfriend is skinny. Like really skinny. I love him and his bony ass, but I know it's something that people think they can comment on. And it's not. People should just keep it to themselves. Even if people think they're complimenting you, they are still reinforcing the idea that our looks are up for public consumption and that they have some right to be critical of you. Not cool.

    And I agree about Michel Martin. I will be doing some seriously Googling soon. :)

  3. Loved this post !

    Fat, skinny, who gives a shit? Size should not matter in any way, other than our personal preferences. We need to try to end stigmatizing big and small people.
    The Cynthia Nixon quote is so good. I can't add to it's eloquence :-)

    Yanno, if I were prone to such things, you would need a handful fo cards ;-)

    (not a a real)Dr Laura is crying foul just like she chastizes and calls women sluts - but she has posed nude herself. Full frontal, vagina on display, I might add.
    She is a hypocrite of great magnitude. Like the card says, she should just "Fuck Off" !

  4. It looks like I'm going to have to direct my fiance to your blog, once again, to read that Cynthia Nixon quote. (LOVE.IT!) He(fiance) is a wonderful man who is very intelligent and knows his shit when it comes to politics, history, and the history of politics. We agree on many things, gay issues not being one of them. As a matter of fact, the biggest argument he and I have ever had in our almost 3 years together was about gays being born gay.

    Earlier that day, I had read your "Patriarchy Wants a Lesson on Privilege" post. From there I went to Lena Chen's blog and from there I ended up at Robot Heart's post, "Privilege 101" Link: http://robot-heart-politics.tumblr.com/post/1048426497/privilege-101

    I do not understand why he would think that people choose to be gay. I do not understand why he chooses to ignore the millions of gays who say they're born that way. Does he think it's some big conspiracy? Do all of the gays have these secret underground meetings where they conspire to fool the world into believing they're actually born that way?? I swear to you if I didn't love him so much, it just may be a deal breaker. Anyway, that link to Robot Heart's "Privilege 101" was the perfect thing to show him. Because there's no actual scientific evidence that gays are born gay, he doesn't believe them. Never mind that there are MILLIONS of people saying, "I was born this way."

    OMG, I could go on but I just got off on a tangent. Sorry. Basically, I gotta have him read the Cynthia Nixon quote because he doesn't think we should allow gay marriage. He thinks that they can have unions, but not marriage. GRRRRRR. I promise that he really is a good man. Hopefully one of these days I'll get him to see the light.

    OH, I loved the link with the cat-calling cards. My favorite is, "Congratulations. You just cock-blocked yourself." HAHA!

  5. mac: haha you're too kind! Your whole comment is full of win.

    April: It's funny cause I just got into an argument with someone on my facebook page about this very thing. I've thought about posting it, but it pretty convoluted and he kept making philosophical stances on the intent of my words and blah blah blah. I'm glad those links helped out though. It is pretty weird how straight people assume they know more about gay people's sexuality than gay people do.

    And there actually is some biological backing that being gay isn't a choice. Though we can’t pinpoint what it is what makes people gay (or straight), there are still biological aspects involved and there is definitely research that points in that direction.

    Some examples (from my human sexuality textbook): Identical twins, who have identical genetic codes, have a higher rate of both twins being homosexual than fraternal twins, who have different genetic codes. This gives scientists a strong reason to believe there is a biological aspect to sexual orientation. There’s also a strong link between homosexuality and gender nonconformity (homosexuals are more likely to experience gender nonconformity than heterosexuals). There is also research which has found that the more older male siblings a man has, the more likely he is to be gay. They believe this has to do with hormones and antibodies towards an antigene produced by the Y chromosome (which doesn’t happen with female babies since there is no Y chromosome obviously). Finger length, penis size, and a higher chance of being left handed all lead researchers to strongly believe there is some biological causation to homosexuality (finger and penis length and are believed to be longer in gay men due to increased levels of androgens). Plus there are pheromones and all that jazz.

    I’m not saying it has to be either genetic, environmental, or a choice. I believe there are a lot of factors that contribute to a person’s sexuality, but there is definitely evidence that biology plays a role. Anyone who denies that is just being silly.

    I also don't think civil unions are the answer. I actually think civil unions are worse then no marriage in terms of what they represent (though some rights are better than no rights obviously). Civil unions intentionally distinguish differences between gay couples from heterosexual ones. We are essentially degrading gays by offering a separate-but-equal civil union while still denying them the social form of marriage. (This is assuming civil unions would be equal to marriage in all ways but name. As of now this definitely isn't how civil unions work.) That makes it unequal, as any law is unequal if it draws upon or enhances the view that some group is held in morally less regard. The true problem is we don’t know how to define marriage. (All dictionaries do is track common usages of terms, so that is not the place to go looking.) We know what it does; it turns strangers-at-law into next-of-kin, but not what it is. "Traditional" marriage doesn't exist.

    Wow. I got off on a tangent to. haha

  6. Thank you for your response. I agree that there are a lot of factors contributing to a person's sexuality.

    His argument is (not in his exact words, but for the most part), "Until there is scientific evidence that homosexuals are born homosexual, we cannot give them rights. It's a choice to be homosexual and giving them equal rights will allow anyone who chooses to be anything to start demanding rights." An example he used is, "What if someone claims that they were really born a dog. That person romantically loves dogs and wants to marry a dog. Why not give that person the right to marry a dog, cohabitate as a married couple, and give them spousal insurance benefits?" He doesn't think there will be a line drawn to the amount of rights given (or asked for) to people who claim to be an oppressed minority without having scientific proof they're an oppressed minority.

    I also agree (and told him) that civil unions are not the answer. That's basically saying, "Well we don't think you're good enough for marriage so you can have civil unions." That's bullshit!

    Honestly, I don't think that marriage holds the same sanctity as it did 50 or so years ago. Maybe for some people, but definitely not the majority. In my opinion anyway. There are many people who don't get married in a church, break their vows, get divorced, and so on. And the reasons why people get married vary as well. So I believe, the definition of marriage has nothing to do with the church, God or even love in some cases. Marriage is a lawful union between 2 people. Who cares what gender those 2 people are? I certainly don't. And I fail to see how letting homosexuals marry effects anyone else but the couples getting married.

    I once read a conspiracy theorists take saying that the government doesn't want gays to marry because the taxes paid by single people is higher than married people. *sigh*

    Anyway, thank you again for an informative response.

  7. I think that argument would hold some validity if we knew why humans were heterosexual. But we don't. So why do we get to have rights for something science can't fully explain when gays don't? Being gay is a choice only as much as everything else we do is a choice. We choose to eat right? And in regards to the "I love dogs" argument, I don't get how seemingly intelligent people can say this. Gay marriage will lead to people marrying animals as much as women voting lead to animals voting. Animals and inanimate objects can't sign legal contracts. I'm sorry, but this argument is just making people look dumb and I don't get why people still say this.

    And I totally agree with you about marriage not being "sacred" anymore. I once got into an argument with Ryan's mom about this very thing. As long as people can get divorced and shotgun weddings exist, then it's gonna take a lot of work to convince me that Brittany Spears 20 hour marriage is more "sacred" then my relationship with Ryan. I honestly don't think the government or churches should be involved at all beyond their singular duties. I know this seems a bit extreme, but if the government only allowed civil unions then this wouldn't be an issue. The churches could then allow their precious "marriages," but they would be symbolic and not any kind of contract that holds government weight. Problem solved. Then I'd like to see how many people only got married. I'm guessing tax benefits will win over sacredness.

    And I haven't heard the taxes thing, but I have heard that insurance companies don't want gay marriage because they will have to provide more services or something. That doesn't make to me though. With polygamy it would make sense, but not with gay couples. Maybe I'm missing something though.

  8. Oh and I'm not saying your fiance is dumb! I just realized it may have come across that way, but I didn't mean it to. I just think he isn't fully considering his arguments because he knows they don't hold much weight and he wants to hold on to this belief. We all do this. lol


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