Friday, April 2, 2010

Rapists Rape (with or without "urging" from 15-year-old girls)

*trigger warning for sexual violence*

I was feeling a little annoyed by some of the responses on a Jezebel post (what's new?) that mentioned the gang rape of a 7-year-old girl. As if the rape of a 7-year-old isn't bad enough, it turns out the girls 15-year-old sister may have played a part in the rapes.

From UPI:
Police announced the arrest of a New Jersey teenager on charges she allowed her 7-year-old sister to be sexually assaulted at a weekend party.

The teenager faced charges Wednesday of promoting prostitution, aggravated assault and other charges in connection with the alleged gang-rape of her kid sister at a Trenton apartment.

The investigation discovered the 15-year-old was prostituting herself at the party and also urging male guests to have sex with the younger girl. As a result, police told The Times in Trenton, N.J., the girl was assaulted by as many as seven people.

See, what makes me uncomfortable with all this, is all the focus on the older sister. I'm not saying that the sister is some perfect little angel who deserves no punishment, but I'm having a hard time swallowing the line, "urging male guests." Because really, how do you urge someone to rape a 7-year-old girl? The answer is you don't. There is nothing a person could ever tell me that would "urge" me to rape a child. I feel like that claim reinforces the idea that men essentially can't control their "urges" and aren't ultimately fully responsible. (Especially not when there's a 15-year-old girl we can blame.)

It just seems like too much anger is being directed at the older sister. While this girl definitely makes me want to hurt someone, ultimately the rapists are the ones who deserve the brunt of our wrath.

I read a great post called "Rape is caused by rapists, part 496" that summed up my feelings quite well:
Rape is the fault of rapists. No one else. Put that blame where it belongs, and stop trying to find any excuse possible to exonerate rapists. That’s the subtext of this article: the men wouldn’t have raped anyone if only the older girl didn’t pimp her sister out. Bullshit. They were going to rape someone, and they chose to do it.


  1. Amen and bravo. I couldn't agree more. Of course this girl is partly to blame, but it doesn't stop the others from being rapists and having even more blame. What a fucked up bunch of people, to gang-rape a 7-year-old.

  2. This entire sordid business is fucked up. Also, I think that's the exact premise of an SVU episode.

    Course, it is kind of bullshit. The minute they find another person partially responsible, bring as much attention to that person as possible. Never mind that a bunch of teenage boys actually weighed the pros and cons of raping a 7-year-old, and the pros apparently came out on top.


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