Sunday, May 31, 2009

Sunday Roundup

Is it just me or does it seem like this week was a little lacking? Oh well, let's jump in...

Random Picture:

This picture just makes me happy (it will make more sense after you read to the end).

Articles You Should Read:

1. I thought the post, Why I'm finding it hard to stomach post-Bush Bill Maher , was really interesting - mainly because I kind of feel the same way. I’ve only seen one show so far this season that didn’t make me cringe with Maher’s hypocrisy and misogynist bull shit.

I still have a major soft spot for him, but my love has definitely waned.

2. Media Matters does a great job at dispelling the Myths and falsehoods surrounding the Sotomayor nomination.


This just makes me giggle...

Thumbs Up:

1. President Obama's nomination of Sotomayor to the supreme court. Kudos.

2. It looks like the contraceptive sponge is making another comeback. Not all women will want to use the sponge, but for those looking to avoid hormone contraception it's a lifesaver. Or should that be life stopper?

I'm hilarious I know.

People Who Get the Middle Finger:

1. The new posters intended to raise men's awareness about and discourage domestic violence by the Rhode Island Coalition Against Domestic Violence . Some of you are probably wondering why I would give the middle finger to a group working to encourage men to be more respectful of women, but I think these pictures speak for themselves.

They may have been trying to do a good thing, but I don’t think completely dehumanizing the women of domestic abuse is the way to do. Nice intent. Poor delivery.

2. California. Need I say more?

3. The attempt of the spine-less (not to mention brain-less) conservative talk show monkeys to paint Sotomayor as a "racist" and a "bigot."

I don’t know about you, but whenever Hannity, Limbaugh, Coulter, and Beck are against something, I know it’s a good idea.

Special STFU of the week:

This one definitely goes to Meme Roth.

After reading, The woman who hates food, all I can say is wow. Meme Roth is a psycho who is disillusioned enough to think the only sure fire was to combat obesity is by fat-shaming people.

Yes, because fat people would know nothing about shame.

But one comment she said was just outrageous, "The defense has been made in the case of sex criminals that there is pleasure on the part of the victim. The same is true with what we're doing with food. We may abuse our bodies with food, but it's incredibly pleasurable. From a food marketer's point of view, when your quote unquote victim is so willing and enjoying of the process, who's fighting back?"

What? By enjoying the food I eat I am participating in my own rape? I'd also like to know who, besides rapists, have used that defense.

Meme Roth, please STFU.

Quote/Thought that makes me happy:
I find the whole mythology surrounding superheroes fascinating. Take my favorite superhero, Superman. Not a great comic book. Not particularly well-drawn. But the mythology... The mythology is not only great, it's unique. Now, a staple of the superhero mythology is, there's the superhero and there's the alter ego. Batman is actually Bruce Wayne, Spider-Man is actually Peter Parker. When that character wakes up in the morning, he's Peter Parker. He has to put on a costume to become Spider-Man. And it is in that characteristic Superman stands alone. Superman didn't become Superman. Superman was born Superman. When Superman wakes up in the morning, he's Superman. His alter ego is Clark Kent. His outfit with the big red "S", that's the blanket he was wrapped in as a baby when the Kents found him. Those are his clothes. What Kent wears - the glasses, the business suit - that's the costume. That's the costume Superman wears to blend in with us. Clark Kent is how Superman views us. And what are the characteristics of Clark Kent. He's weak... he's unsure of himself... he's a coward. Clark Kent is Superman's critique on the whole human race. - Kill Bill

Something you probably don’t know about me:

I pick up snails that I find on the sidewalk and move them to the bushes.

I know it seems silly, but I think the little buggers deserve another chance. It's not like it's their fault we ruined their stomping grounds with all our buildings.

It's just the least I can do (it's times like these that Ryan shakes his head in wonder of how he ended up with such a strange being).

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Did you miss me?

I’ve had a pretty uneventful day today, but I really wanted to post something since I didn’t feel up to it yesterday (I try not to get in the habit of not posting, since it’s ridiculously easy for one day to turn into twelve).

So here’s what I’ve been up to the last two days.

1. I cut my bangs. I know, why should you care? But after watching this video on youtube, I decided to give it another go (thanks goodness they turned out nice since they’d finally just grown out).

Anyone who has trouble with their bangs should check the video out. It helped me tons and I'm super happy with the results.

Try not to get too excited looking at my awesome bangs. I know it's hard, but be strong.

2. I've started playing around with feathers. I totally botched a headband I was trying to make, but I made a little clip and I think it turned out alright.

Sorry the picture's so bad.

As usual, I made a few mistakes and learned a few things, but it's always worth the ideas I get out of it.

3. I started a picture for Britni. My sister's gonna be super pissed that I didn't make hers first, but the idea just lodged itself in my brain and I had to make it.

I still need to add some detail and glue everything in place, but the colors are really nice (they're a lot more vibrant then in this pic) and I'm pretty happy with it so far.

I'm probably gonna add some text as well, but I'm not sure what direction I want to go with that so that'll be last.

And that's pretty much it. I know it's kind of random, but what can I say? I'm a random kind of gal.

Hope every one's having a great weekend and I'll have another roundup for tomorrow.


Weekly Address 5/30/09

The President discusses the breadth and depth of experience held by his nominee for the Supreme Court. In the course of a life that began in a housing project in the South Bronx and brought her to the pinnacle of her profession, Judge Sonia Sotomayor accumulated more experience on the federal bench than any incoming Supreme Court Justice in the past 100 years, touching nearly every aspect of our legal system.

Thursday, May 28, 2009

The Survivor Mural Project

I just learned about The Survivor Mural Project and I am completely blown away.

From the site:
If you have experienced any form of sexual violence, you are invited to contribute a piece to the mural project. Each individual piece will be placed into a larger panel, made up of hundreds of mural pieces. The project will be exhibited online in our gallery, and will eventually be put together to form a traveling patchwork mural.

We believe that collaborating with many survivors from all around the world will provide a powerful visual reminder of the staggering statistics and the devastating impact that sexual violence can have on people's lives.

Participants can choose to remain anonymous. You do NOT need to be an artist! This is your opportunity to be heard, and to offer inspiration and hope to others.

I think this is such a great idea and urge any survivors of sexual violence who might happen upon this to participate.

I have no idea what I’m going to create, but I will definitely be sending something in.

-You can find out more here and take a look at some of the submissions so far here.

President Obama needs to release those photos NOW

Have you ever been reading something and suddenly felt the bottom of your stomach drop out?

The idea that soldiers have been possibly raping prisoners in Abu Ghraib is one of those things.

From the Daily Telegraph :
Detail of the content emerged from Major General Antonio Taguba, the former army officer who conducted an inquiry into the Abu Ghraib jail in Iraq.

Allegations of rape and abuse were included in his 2004 report but the fact there were photographs was never revealed. He has now confirmed their existence in an interview with the Daily Telegraph.

Maj Gen Taguba, who retired in January 2007, said he supported the President’s decision, adding: “These pictures show torture, abuse, rape and every indecency.

“I am not sure what purpose their release would serve other than a legal one and the consequence would be to imperil our troops, the only protectors of our foreign policy, when we most need them, and British troops who are trying to build security in Afghanistan.

“The mere description of these pictures is horrendous enough, take my word for it.”

I don’t know what’s worse: knowing people were raped for “my freedom,” knowing that this was known in 2004 but we just didn’t want to hear it at the time, or knowing President Obama has these photos and won’t release them.

All of it makes me sick.

(I'd also like to ask Major General Antonio Taguba why a legal reason isn't reason enough.)

Update: looks like the Obama administration is denying the rape and sexual abuse allegations. Too bad we have little reason to trust that they’re telling the truth.

I guess that’s what comes from having a government that is willing to publicly acknowledge that they are willing to keep information from its citizens for the “better good.”

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Let's try this vlog thing again

I made another video yesterday and I thought I’d post it today. (Shocking considering the title of this post right?)

Even though I still wish I wasn’t so animated when I talk, I think this one came out a lot better. I was talking about something that got me a little worked up so I think I sound a lot more natural.

I didn’t mean to ramble on for so long, so I ended up having to cut out some of the middle. I know it’s really noticeable, but give me break. I’m a newbie at this.

Without further ado:

Total brain fart at 8:23 haha...

Sorry about butchering that Martin Luther King Jr. quote. The quote I was referring to is, “He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.”

I hope you guys enjoyed it and I didn’t sound too crazy.

I just want to clarify again: this isn’t really about the specific incident I talk about in the video. I wasn't at all offended by what was said or think there was a problem. This is more about my general attitude and the way I can’t let things go.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Shame on you California

The California courts have decided to uphold the ban on gay marriage through the initiative prop 8.

The fact that the court found it unconstitutional to deny gay couples the right to marriage equality, but “the people” were able to circumvent that by simply amending the constitution is ludicrous.

The only silver lining is the courts oh so generous decision that the 18,000 gay couples that got married get to remain so.

Woo. Hoo.

Steve's Birthday

A Sunday Roundup ago, I had posted a picture of our friend Russell getting cozy with a Jenna Jameson blow up doll. Though I said I would explain in more detail, I lost interest and decided not to.

Well, our friend Steve has just called me for the pics and I'm gonna post them here since it's easier.

So really this is for my neighbor, but you're welcome to enjoy yourself as well.

Here are some random pics:

click to make larger

There are quite a few more, but blogger is being difficult. I'm uploading the rest to my flicker photostream. I will post a link as soon as they're all uploaded (at 30% complete as I type this).

*Edit: you can see them here.

Here is a silly little video as well.

So there you have it. This isn't the greatest post I've ever done, but I'm trying to be quick.

It was a great party Steve.

Monday, May 25, 2009

Memorial Day

It’s Memorial Day, as most of you know, and Yahoo had a post about the Tomb of the Unknowns on its front page.

While I do think it’s a little silly to that the monument has been, “guarded continuously, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, since July 2, 1937,” I can understand the sentiment and all that the gesture implied.

Even though I’m a pacifist at heart, I would never be so crass as to ignore the sacrifice these soldiers gave or the psychological trauma it must have caused these families to be forever questioning what happened to their loved ones.

As usual, the President laid a wreath at the tomb today (Obama also went on to send a wreath to the African American Civil War Memorial which I thought was great) and said the standard remarks of bravery and sacrifice.

I couldn’t help but be reminded by President Obama’s remarks of a story in William March’s Company K. (I’ve talked about the book before, and the teacher who exposed it to me, but this moment just screams for it again.)

President Obama remarked:
"Why in an age when so many have acted only in pursuit of narrowest self-interest have the soldiers, sailors, airmen and Marines of this generation volunteered all that they have on behalf of others," he said. "Why have they been willing to bear the heaviest burden? Whatever it is, they felt some tug. They answered a call. They said 'I'll go.' That is why they are the best of America," Obama said. "That is what separates them from those who have not served in uniform, their extraordinary willingness to risk their lives for people they never met.

Part of “The Unknown Soldier” from Company K:
“It’s all a lie that people tell each other, and nobody really believes,” I said… “And I’m a part of it, whether I want to be or not. I’m more a part of it now than ever before: In a few years, when the war is over, they’ll move my body back home to the Soldier’s Cemetery, just as they moved the bodies of soldiers killed before I was born. There will be a brass band and speech making and a beautiful marble shaft with my name chiseled on its base… The mayor will be there also, pointing to my name with his thick, trembling forefinger and shouting meaningless words about glorious deaths and fields of honor… And there will be other little boys in that crowd to listen and believe him, just like I listened and believed!”
Because the soldier doesn’t want to be part of that, he throws his tags and helmet away and rips up his identification so no one can identify his body.
“I’ve beaten the orators and wreath layers at their own game…Nobody will ever use me as a symbol. No-body will ever tell lies over my dead body now!”
My favorite line is at the end though.
“I have broken the chain,” I whispered. “I have defeated the inherent stupidity of life.”

I must admit I had to butcher the story so I could get my point across (you really should read the book to get the full affect), but I found it too coincidental.

So whether they wanted to be forgotten on purpose or just abused by fate, let us take a little time to think about these unknown soldiers this Memorial Day (and all service men and women).

Here’s to hoping one day these monuments will be nothing more then a memory of a distant bloody past.


Top six ways to kill Piper

These girls took bullying to a whole new level.

Embedded video from CNN Video

I think this video sums up some of the worst aspects of our society (tolerance to bullying, excessive exposure to violence, casual regard towards school shootings, etc.) and keeping their punishments private is a bad move on the part of the school.

It needs to be known that this sort of behavior is completely unacceptable. Period.

Sunday, May 24, 2009

Outside the orbit of the anal ring and other thoughts from Fry

I am in the middle of reading Moab is My Washpot by Stephen fry.

I am not a huge fan of biographies or autobiographies (rather I’m more indifferent), but this one is great.

You can read the synopsis via amazon here, but I really wanted to share this particular passage about his views of homosexuality.

From page 210:
Buggery is not at the end of the yellow brick road somewhere over the homosexual rainbow, it is not the prize, the purpose, the goal of fulfillment of homosexuality. Buggery is not the achievement which sees homosexuality move from becoming into being; buggery is not homosexuality’s realization or destiny. Buggery is as much a necessary condition of homosexuality as the ownership of a Volvo estate car is a necessary condition to middle-class family life, linked irretrievably only in the minds of the witless and the cheap…

There are plenty of other things to be got up to in the homosexual world outside the orbit of the anal ring, but the concept that really gets the gay-hater, the idea that really spins their melon and sickens their stomach is that most terrible and terrifying of all human notions, love.

That one can love another of the same gender, that is what the homophobe cannot stand. Love in all eight tones and all five semitones of the world’s full octave. Love as agape, Eros and philos; love as romance, friendship, and adoration; love as infatuation obsession and lust; love as torture, euphoria, ecstasy and oblivion (this is beginning to read like a Calvin Klein perfume catalogue); love as need, passion, and desire.

All the rest of it, parking your dick up an arse, slurping at a helmet, whipping, frotting, peeing, pooping, squatting like a dog, dressing up in plastic and leather – all of these things go on in the world of boy and girl too: and let’s be clear about this, they go on more – the numbers make it so. Go into a sex shop, skim through some pornography, browse the internet for a time, talk to someone in the sex industry. You think homosexuality is disgusting? Then, it follows, it follows as the night the day, that you find sex disgusting, for there is nothing done between two men or two women that is, by any objective standard, different from that which is done between a man and a woman.

Fry has summed up the entire problem of the people who think homosexuality is wrong and I just love him for it.

(Well, for everything. He’s pretty awesome.)

Until we can get people to accept this beautiful and heart wrenching reality, that homosexuality is about love and not sex, there is no hope for marriage equality or general acceptance.

There are many great passages in this book that feel like they were written off my own soul and not Fry’s. I can’t recommend it any more sincerely.

Read it.

Sunday Roundup

I hope everyone’s having a great Sunday.

Let’s jump right in...

Random Picture:

I know it’s sad, but I just love this picture from Teddy Roosevelt’s journal.

He put a large X and wrote, “The light has gone out of my life,” on the day in which both his mother and wife died within hours of each other.

Articles You Should Read:

1. I thought this post, I had an abortion. (And I don't regret it!), at feministing was really interesting because it wasn’t the usual sob story regarding abortion. It’s just a post written by a woman who had an abortion; simple, but outrageously brave. Some other stories are shared in the comments and it was just a really nice thing to read.

2. Dylan Loewe sums up President Obama’s decision to name Utah Governor, Jon Hunstman, as Ambassador to China in the article, A Political Masterstroke. Loved it.


Jezebel had a post the other day, "20 Songs About Cunnilingus" and Akinyele's "Put it in your mouth" was obviously included.

I hadn't heard the song in so long and it brought back memories of the first time I'd ever heard it and thinking it was so salacious.

I remember feeling ridiculously naughty singing along.

Thumbs Up:

1. To Congress for passing credit card reform legislation and President Obama for signing it into law.

2. To Erich “Mancow” Muller for not only having the guts to get water boarded (when Mr. Sean Hannity wouldn't), but for also admitting it is "way worse then he thought it would be" and that it's "absolutely torture."

The fact that water boarding is still being debated shows the collective intelligence of this country.

People Who Get the Middle Finger:

1. But while Congress may have passed credit card reform legislation, they also voted to allow guns in National Parks which Obama later signed into law.

Cause what America really needs is more places people can bring guns.

2. But not to be outdone, the Texas legislature has passed a bill to allow college students and teachers to carry concealed weapons on school grounds.

3. I am so appalled by President Obama’s suggestion that we should have a system of “preventative detention” I don’t even know what to say.

Not only does the idea of imprisoning people based on the assumption they might commit a crime in the future go against every idea of Liberty we American’s are supposed to hold so dear, but it is in direct violation of the constitution.

There is no rational for this. I don’t care how “dangerous” these people are to our “freedom.” Imprisoning people without due process erodes the very ideology of America. Not to mention the entire justice system.

Again, I point you towards Glenn Greenwald’s excellent summation of this terribly frightening idea.

Rachel Maddow also did a great segment on the hypocrisy of President Obama condemning the Bush administration while simultaneously stomping all over the constitution. Watch it here. Now.

Quote/Thought that makes me happy:
“I’m not embarrassed about being bisexual. This is who I am. Love is pure and I try to keep it that way. This is who I am, what I feel. I think it’s unnecessary to draw the subject out, but I think it even more stupid not to discuss it. It seems as if bisexuality is a trend and I should whip up the masses. Well, I don’t believe in trends, I just believe in me.” -Pink

Something you probably don’t know about me:

I hate mayonnaise. Actually, the word “hate” doesn’t even come close to the abhorrence I feel towards mayonnaise. I can’t stand the taste of it and just the thought of it makes me want to gag.

A bottle last forever in our house. The only reason I even allow it in our fridge is for deviled eggs and potato salad. Other then that, it’s pretty much Ryan’s responsibility to buy it and eat it.

I just don’t get it. It’s like smearing lard on your food. I’m starting to get carried away, but I just hate it.


Saturday, May 23, 2009

More Police Brutality

As I sit here and watch another video of a person being beaten by police, I have to wonder at the way some people think.

Here is a perfect example of some of the asinine comments you hear when one of these videos pops up (I tried to choose one that wasn’t so blatantly pro police brutality too):
Ultimately the cops should have not started beating the guy, but this is 15 seconds removed from him running over a cop. For all of you liberal cop haters I guess this just proves your belief, but let me try to put it into terms you would understand. Let's say this weekend at your kids soccer game one of the other parents pours a steaming hot grande caramel macchiatto on Biff Jr. and then calmly walk back to his jag and sits would you respond? He's not a threat anymore, right? The guy in the vehicle forfeited any rights to reasonable treatment when he decided to use his vehicle as a weapon.

I just don’t get this type of thinking. Criminals break the law (that shouldn’t be surprising given how we call them “criminals”) but that doesn’t mean at any point their right to be treated like a human being is forfeited.

As George Carlton once said, if rights can be taken away they’re not rights. They’re privileges.

And being treated humanely and fairly by the law should never be considered a privilege.

It may not be fair. It my make us angry that we have to treat these people with decency even though they have such little disregard for other people. I know it makes me pissed as hell.

But none of that changes the fact that the police are not employed to hand out street justice.

When we allow ourselves to condone the despicable behavior of police officers, simply because they’re cops, we’re no better then the criminals ourselves.

I don’t care about the situation. Police brutality is never okay. Never. Ever. Ever.

Please don't pet me

Why do people think its okay to touch me?

I know that sounds odd, but a lady at the store started petting my head like I was a puppy in desperate need of love.

Wtf? Is there some secret “I like to be touched by strangers” code red hair gives out?

You wouldn’t think this sort of thing happens a lot, but it does. People constantly touch my hair when I have it down.

I could understand if my hair had fairy dust weaved throughout it or the secret to Jesus’ divinity hidden within, but it doesn’t.

So don't.

I barely like to be touched by people I know let alone some lady I’ve never met in the craft store.

On a related note: why do people feel the need to give out hugs when they leave? Do they think we might have separation anxiety if they suddenly grow boundaries and keep their hands to their self?

Now, I don’t mean to sound like I’m allergic to human contact. I have no problem if someone accidentally bumps me or I touch knees with one of my friends at dinner. I just don’t like the idea of some random person touching me, especially my hair.

I think touching a person’s hair is, in many ways, erotic and extremely intimate.

For a random person to do it just makes me uncomfortable.

So if you ever have the urge to pet me, please show some self restraint. I promise I’ll let you touch me if we become friends.


End of rant.

Weekly Address 5/23/09

President Barack Obama calls on the American people to join him in paying tribute to Americas veterans, servicemen and women particularly those who have made the ultimate sacrifice - and their families.

Friday, May 22, 2009

Serbian Orthodox Church will beat the addiction right out of you

Are you a frustrated sadist looking for an outlet? Then you should apply to be a Serbian Orthodox Church drug rehabilitation staffer.

Not only will you get to beat the shit out of addicts, but you get special props for doing gods work.


I wonder if that patient takes comfort from the Christian saints watching over him in the background.

You can read the full story here. (Oh, and who at BBC decided to put "beating" in quotes?)

Thursday, May 21, 2009

Anatomical Heart

I am really into all the anatomical heart and lung clothing that's gotten popular lately.

I've been wanting to put one on a shirt, but since I don't have the money to buy silkscreening supplies right now (I know, boo hoo) I decided to make a necklace instead.

Sorry for the crappy pictures, but here's a look:

Pretty awesome right?

I'm gonna make a few more, but I'm keeping this one for myself. :)

Jesus Camp

I don’t watch much t.v. (though I almost always have it on in the background or I feel alone. Odd isn't it?), but last night was awesome.

Not only did I watch a show about sexuality in the Middle Ages, but I got to watch the documentary Jesus Camp.

And wow.

I missed the first half, but I honestly don’t think my brain could have handled the entire clusterfuck.

Here’s a summary from wikipedia:
Jesus Camp is a 2006 U.S. documentary directed by Rachel Grady and Heidi Ewing about a Pentecostal/charismatic summer camp for children who spend their summers learning and practicing their "prophetic gifts" and being taught that they can "take back America for Christ." According to the distributor, it "doesn't come with any prepackaged point of view" and tries to be "an honest and impartial depiction of one faction of the evangelical Christian community.”

I think the directors did a great job at being impartial and letting the crazy speak for itself.

Through out the movie these children are taught that Harry Potter is against god, they're god's warriors, and we need to put god back in our schools and have a "righteous government."

But the part I found most creepy, was the camp’s anti-choice propaganda. They showed the children little tiny dolls, which look exactly like babies, and told them that a third of their friends would be here today if they had been allowed to be born.

They then essentially told these children that it’s their responsibility to stop abortion in America.

Here’s a great clip:

Is that not one of the most frightening things you've ever seen?

-You see more clips of Jesus Camp here.

Side note: I hate showing clips of Pentecostals speaking in tongues because I think people tend to take it the wrong way. I went to a Pentecostal church for over a year, as a spectator not a believer, and it’s one of the only churches I’ve ever been in that has any true sense of feeling or life in it. I am talking about sermons so powerful that even I, as a nonbeliever, was moved. The only other church that can compare is an Baptist church that I had the pleasure of visiting a few times.

(Yes, this atheist likes churches. Not only is the music generally good, I love choirs, but you find the most interesting characters and people to watch.)

Pentecostals really do act the way they’re portrayed (as here and even in the movie Borat), but I have never seen this kind of blatant political activism.

My point is that even though they may be crazy, they’re no more crazy then any other Christian who thinks Jesus was born of a virgin or Mormon who wears magic underwear.

Wednesday, May 20, 2009

Reports of systematic abuse of Irish children by Priests and Nuns

I just read an article about children who were routinely humiliated and victimized by Catholic priests and Nuns in Irish reform schools.

To call this a travesty is little comfort and shows the inadequacy of the English language in times such as these.

From Huffington Post:

DUBLIN — A fiercely debated, long-delayed investigation into Ireland's Roman Catholic-run institutions says priests and nuns terrorized thousands of boys and girls in workhouse-style schools for decades and government inspectors failed to stop the chronic beatings, rapes and humiliation.

Nine years in the making, Wednesday's 2,600-page report sides almost completely with the horrific reports of abuse from former students sent to more than 250 church-run, mostly residential institutions. But victims' leaders said it didn't go far enough particularly because none of their abusers were identified by name.

The report concluded that church officials always shielded their orders' pedophiles from arrest to protect their own reputations and, according to documents uncovered in the Vatican, knew that many pedophiles were serial attackers.

The investigators said overwhelming, consistent testimony from still-traumatized men and women, now in their 50s to 80s, had demonstrated beyond a doubt that the entire system treated children more like prison inmates and slaves than people with legal rights and human potential.

"A climate of fear, created by pervasive, excessive and arbitrary punishment, permeated most of the institutions and all those run for boys. Children lived with the daily terror of not knowing where the next beating was coming from," the final report of Ireland's Commission to Inquire Into Child Abuse concluded.

...The report, unveiled by High Court Justice Sean Ryan, found that molestation and rape were "endemic" in boys' facilities, chiefly run by the Christian Brothers, and supervisors pursued policies that increased the danger. Girls supervised by orders of nuns, chiefly the Sisters of Mercy, suffered much less sexual abuse but frequent assaults and humiliation designed to make them feel worthless.

"In some schools a high level of ritualized beating was routine. ... Girls were struck with implements designed to maximize pain and were struck on all parts of the body," the report said. "Personal and family denigration was widespread."

wtf? I just don't understand how someone could hurt children on this sick sadistic level.

And with government funding no less.

Unfortunately, as horrific as the findings are, this report will not be used for criminal prosecutions. That article claims that, “the Christian Brothers successfully sued the commission in 2004 to keep the identities of all of its members, dead or alive, unnamed in the report. No real names, whether of victims or perpetrators, appear in the final document.”

The article doesn’t explain it anymore then that, but I think that's the most disheartening part of all this (and how people can still sit in the pews of Catholic churches boggles the mind).

Hopefully, the general outrage this information should generate will make the Irish government think twice about letting these crimes go unpunished.

Because I don’t know about you, but a government that can’t protect it’s own children is a government that shouldn’t be around.

-You can read the full article here.

Crazy Talk - Rush vs. Powell

Limbaugh should really lay off Powell.

Not only does it emphasize what a small minded ignorant assfuck Limbaugh really is, but I don't see Powell bending over for Rush anytime soon.

LIMBAUGH: The only thing emerging here is Colin Powell's ego. Colin Powell represents the stale, the old, the worn-out GOP that never won anything. The party of Gerald Ford, Nelson Rockefeller, Bill Scranton, Arnold Schwarzenegger, and those types of people. Has anybody heard Colin Powell say a single word against Obama's radicalism? Or Pelosi or Reid for that matter? Maybe he has, but this fawning media sure hasn't reported that he said it. He supports massive debt I guess. He supports slashing the military budget I suppose. He supports federal funding of abortion I guess. He supports activist judicial nominees. He supports rationalizing private industries, nationalizing them. He supports all kinda of things, even so-called moderate Republicans like him used to oppose. But he voted for Obama, endorsed him; I just told you what Obama's policies are, he doesn't speak out against them, he's waiting for a GOP to emerge that will include him? They don't like what happened in California, mark my words.

Yes, because when I think of fresh faces and new ideas for the future direction of the Republican party I always think of Rush Limbaugh.

Plus, I'm pretty sure Powell was at the forefront when the Republicans had control just a few years ago.

You know, I heard large amounts of drugs weren't good for the memory there Rush. You might want to lay off the pills.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

What I don't need

I’m really tired of people telling me what feminism is or what feminists believe or how you should act as a feminist.

I don’t need an article telling me that feminism is just an excuse to drink and fuck.

I don’t need to read about the imaginary “catfights” that different feminist geared websites are having.

I don’t need to be told I’m a bad feminist for thinking a certain joke is funny or enjoying an Eminem song now and then.

I don’t need any this.

I’m a feminist because I believe in equality among all people, but that doesn’t mean I have to be a certain type of woman for it to count.

Just because I do it my way, doesn’t mean I’m a worse feminist then anyone else or I’m creating some large cultural divide among women.

I believe women are equal to men.

I believe skin color isn’t a signifier of worth.

I believe being “childfree” doesn’t make a woman less of a woman.

I believe marriage should be about love.

I believe love is more then gender.

I believe sex is the physical manifestation of love, even if it’s sometimes only love of self, and it should be enjoyed solely for the pleasure of it.

My name is Alana.

I’m a feminist.

And I don’t give a fuck if you agree.

So please stop telling me what I have to be in order to be a feminist. Because you’re just trying to put me into another kind of box and I won’t tolerate it.

Not now. Not ever.

Monday, May 18, 2009

Proud Mary

I’ve listened to this song like five times in a row now.

“We never ever do nothing nice and easy..."

Love it.

Obama's weak speech and Gallup polls

I’m having a hard time deciding where to start this post, President Obama’s weak speech at Notre Dame or the new poll about abortion rights and the glaring schism between image and ideology.

mmm...let’s go with Obama:

I’m really staring to get annoyed with President Obama’s backpedaling on the very issues that made him such a strong candidate in the primaries.

I mean I get it. Obama wants to dispel the rumors that he’s a baby killing, liberal socialist who wants to control your doctor and see the end of America as we know it, but why does he have to tiptoe over the left’s position to do so?

Obama may be trying to appease the right, but it would nice of him to reassure those of us who actually voted for him once and awhile.

Here is part of the speech he gave at Notre Dame:

That's when we begin to say, "Maybe we won't agree on abortion, but we can still agree that this heart-wrenching decision for any woman is not made casually, it has both moral and spiritual dimensions."

So let us work together to reduce the number of women seeking abortions, let's reduce unintended pregnancies. Let's make adoption more available. Let's provide care and support for women who do carry their children to term. Let's honor the conscience of those who disagree with abortion, and draft a sensible conscience clause, and make sure that all of our health care policies are grounded not only in sound science, but also in clear ethics, as well as respect for the equality of women." Those are things we can do.

Now, understand - understand, Class of 2009, I do not suggest that the debate surrounding abortion can or should go away. Because no matter how much we may want to fudge it - indeed, while we know that the views of most Americans on the subject are complex and even contradictory - the fact is that at some level, the views of the two camps are irreconcilable. Each side will continue to make its case to the public with passion and conviction. But surely we can do so without reducing those with differing views to caricature.

Is that really all the common ground to be found among us? (And are we really still not in agreement that abortion is a difficult decision?) Can’t we agree that the government shouldn’t have the right to control the medical decisions of women? Or that, even if you disagree with the way a person lives their life, they have the fundamental right to make those decisions themselves?

Or how’s about the hypocrisy of conservatives in believing that the government should stay out of people’s lives except, of course, when it’s involving women (since we’re so obviously incapable of making decisions for ourselves and need men to do it for us).

This is why I can’t understand why any women are conservative…or Christian, but that's a whole different can of worms.

President Obama is right about two things though: the two sides of abortion are largely irreconcilable (they didn't even want his presence at the school because of his views) and the debate isn’t going anywhere.

That’s why it’s so important that President Obama doesn’t shy away from being pro-choice.

We need a strong front and prove that there is nothing shameful by believing women have ownership over their own bodies. Shying away from those beliefs undermines all of the progress those before us so courageously fought for and does a disservice to women everywhere.

In a great article, Weak on Women’s Rights at Notre Dame, Martha Burk summed it up perfectly by saying:

Make no mistake. I support President Obama. I think for the most part he's doing a great job. I know he's pro-choice. But I need to know he is not afraid to say unequivocally that he supports the fundamental rights of his daughters and my granddaughters as strongly as he supports so-called open dialogue and debate. He needs to say it out loud, with conviction and without apology.

If they hear that, the women of the world will stand and applaud much longer and much harder than any crowd at Notre Dame.
I can’t help but be disappointed by the fact that President Obama didn’t reiterate his support for women’s rights one time in his speech. Especially considering the problems we’re having with the way women’s rights are being portrayed to people in the media.

I’m talking about the recent Gallup poll that showed that, for the first time, more Americans consider themselves “pro-life” then “pro-choice.”

Now while just reading those words may be enough to make you cringe, this isn’t as big of a deal as one would think (though we should still be concerned) because it has more to do with labels then it does beliefs.

Just as how more American’s are atheist then those who identify as such (which I talked about here), the outcome of this poll is the same.

As you can see by these charts, 50% of people may consider themselves “pro-life,” but only 27% actually think abortion should be illegal.

That’s still a large jump from the 17% it was last year, but it’s not as dire a situation as some media headlines might lead you to believe.

Now, there are many different reasons why a person might call themselves “pro-life” but still think the decision is ultimately up to the individual woman (which obviously makes them pro-choice) and most of them have to do with the way we’ve allowed the anti-choicers take control of the conversation.

This has become an issue about “dead babies” instead of the freedom to control our own autonomy or the fact that we already tried it their way and it DIDN’T WORK.

It has become “life” vs. “choice.”

Good Christian’s vs. slutty irresponsible abortion happy floozies.

When you look at it that way, it’s not surprising the poll got the results it did.

The poll also doesn’t clarify what “legal in some situations” or “legal in few situations” means, making them open to individual interpretation by each person. Since late term abortion have been given a lot of air time the last few years, despite the fact that 89% of abortions are done in the first 12 weeks, I think this is a huge discrepancy.

Either way the results are disheartening.

So while Obama may be busy looking for common ground, I think a firm stand is more important at this point.

-You can watch President Obama’s speech here or read the text here.

-There’s also a great article here that talks about the problems with a poll like this. I recommend it to everyone.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Sunday Roundup

I hope everyone is having a great Sunday and the hangovers aren't too bad.

Let's jump right in...

Random Picture:

This is our friend Russell abusing a Jenna Jameson blow up doll last night. It turns out sucking the feet of a plastic sex toy is much fun.

That is one lucky lady my friend. One lucky lady.

(I will explain this in more detail later, but for now this picture makes me smile so I thought I would share.)


1. Here’s a great article, 10 Years After Matthew Shepard and Media Still Can't Get It Right, by Karl Frisch.

He talks about how some media personalities are attempting to distort the current effort to expand the federal hate crimes law by including gay, lesbian, and transgender people among its protected classes. I thought it was great.

2. Interesting post from T.I. about learning from past mistakes and the importance of putting down guns.

3. As usual, Glenn Greenwald hits the nail perfectly on the head in his post, "We wouldn't want to inflame anti-American sentiment." Read it. It rocks.


This video is just great and it totally made me giggle.

Thumbs Up:

I don’t know how it happened, but I don’t have anyone special to give a thumbs up to.

So I guess this one’s for you dear reader. :)

The Middle Finger:

1. I hate to do it, but shame on President Obama for reversing his promise to make public the photos depicting detainee abuse by U.S. personnel overseas. If you have any doubt as to why this is such a bad idea, just read the above mentioned article by Greenwald.

2. I also want to give a special screw you to the Laos government for telling a British woman, Samantha Orobator, who was impregnated in jail that she must deny being raped or face death.

3. Not to be outdone, the University of Tennessee has extended a scholarship offer to a convicted rapist because he happens to be great at football. Way to go UT!

4. And what is up with L’Oreal whitewashing gorgeous brown skinned women? They’re fine the way they are. Stop it!

Quote/Thought that makes me happy:
“Do not believe in anything simply because you have heard it. Do not believe in anything simply because it is spoken and rumored by many. Do not believe in anything simply because it is found written in your religious books. Do not believe in anything merely on the authority of your teachers and elders. Do not believe in traditions because they have been handed down for many generations. But after observation and analysis, when you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all, then accept it and live up to it.” (Siddhartha Gautama, 563-483, B.C.E.)

Something you probably don’t know about me:

I don’t know how to do a cartwheel. I just never learned when I was younger. I know it seems silly, but it’s one of those things I just wished I knew how to do.

Cause sometimes life just calls for a cartwheel.


Saturday, May 16, 2009

Weekly Address 5/16/09

The President discusses breakthroughs on two issues where stakeholders from all sides, once opposed, are coming together for real reform. On health care and energy, solutions would provide key pillars for a new foundation for the country.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Sex Theme Park

China is building it's first sex theme park, Love Land.

The aim is to teach about the history of sex, STD prevention, and sexual techniques through workshops and giant replicas of genitals.

As expected, some people are completely against it, while others look forward to having a new healthy discourse about sex in China.

Personally, I think it's kick asstic and more education about sexual health is always a good thing.

Plus, giant genitals? Sign me up.

-You can read the full article from The Gaurdian here.

Edit: It looks like officials over the weekend decided to take a wrecking ball to the theme park and shut it down.

I guess it's too much to expect people to accept the reality that people HAVE SEX and should therefore have information regarding it.

oh well.

Crazy Talk - Democrats weaker then Republicans

Barnicle and Scarborough claim, Democrats "are weaker" than Republicans without Obama.

From the May 14 edition of MSNBC's Morning Joe (via Media Matters):
SCARBOROUGH: Everybody always talks about how weak the Republican Party is -- take Barack Obama away from the Democratic Party and who do you have? Nancy Pelosi --


SCARBOROUGH: -- Harry Reid, Henry Waxman, Barney Frank.

BARNICLE: They're weaker.

BRZEZINSKI: Good point.

SCARBOROUGH: They are --

BARNICLE: They're weaker than the Republicans without the president.

SCARBOROUGH: -- weaker than the Republican Party, but they have got --

BRZEZINSKI: A good leader.

SCARBOROUGH: There's a superstar of a politician running their party.

For one that's just not true. Congressional Democrats have a 44% approval rating compared to Congressional Republicans 14% approval rating.

It's almost not even fair.

Second, who cares? We do have President Obama so all this brouhaha is pretty redundant.

Did any one else have the urge to say, "nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah nyah?"

Just me?

That's cool.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

My First Vlog

I just got a webcam today (thanks mom!) so I decided to post a video in case any of you are curious as to what I sound like.

(And I totally don’t mean that in a creepy way cause I’m just as curious too.)

I must admit it was extremely difficult and I don’t like the way it turned out at all, but after so many tries I just decided to post the next one no matter what. So I’m sorry about the pauses and all the “ums” I mumbled, but what can you do?

So here I am in all my glory (man I’m really nervous lol) and I hope you like it:

I don't know why the quality isn't that good, but I'm still trying to get the hang of it.

I'm also in the middle of redecorating our office so please excuse the white starkness of its current state. I promise I don't live in the loony bin. :)

Oh, and I was referring to Britni's blog in my video. You can see her first vlog (which is much better then mine lol) here.

Orzo Stuffed Peppers

I know this is random (my posts are kind of strange today I know), but I made the best stuffed peppers last night.

Like the bestest best.

Like the bestest most bestest best best.

Are you getting my point?

As usual, I posted the recipe here, but I wanted to share.

You're welcome.

(If you don't make this you're crazy.)

Michelle Obama makes Maxim's top 100

First Lady Michelle Obama has come in at #93 in Maxim's Hot 100, the magazine's annual list of the 100 hottest women in the world.

Here's what it says next to her pic:
He may be dealing with two wars, an economic meltdown, and a rapidly graying dome, but at least our Commander in Chief gets to come home to the hottest First Lady in the history of these United States. (Sorry, Martha Washington!)

I don't know whether I should be happy a strong intelligent woman like Michelle Obama was included, or hang my head in shame.

"Outrage" movie trailer

I've just seen the movie trailer for the new documentary Outrage and it looks pretty interesting.

In the movie, Kirby Dick (of This Film is Not Yet Rated) explores the hypocrisy of closeted politicians who vote against gay rights while being gay themselves.

Check it out:

I am tying to watch more documentaries, so I will definitely add this one to the list.

You can read a more in depth review here and a big thanks to feministing for the heads up.

Edit: I also want to add this movie trailer for the movie Precious.

I just watched this myself, via Jezebel, and it made me completely choke up.


Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Growing up and hair cuts

Holden has just passed another milestone on the growing up tour.

He cut his own hair.

Yup, anyone with children or brothers and sisters knows it’s an inevitability, but I wish he wouldn’t of cut so close to the scalp. We had to shave it all.

A week ago.

A day ago.

At least he's a boy and it'll grow out fast (not like when my sister decided to cut off all her bangs, at the scalp, the day before pictures).

But man he has a big head. lol

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Fuck off you fucking fucktard

Some one flipped out on me cause I called someone a "fucktard" (because of the "tard" ending).

You know what, maybe there is such a thing as too politically correct.

Maybe I am being insensitive, but I just don't care. You gotta draw the line somewhere.

And if it offends you, then maybe you're the one with the problem.

*Edit: Sorry. I was kind of angry when I wrote this.

Don't Ask, Don't Tell and Lt. Daniel Choi

The recent discharge of Lt. Daniel Choi from the Army National Guard, for coming out of the closet and therefore violating the “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy, has been in the news recently.

Well, today he has released a letter to the president and every member of congress. I know I’m a sap, but this letter made me choke up.

Open Letter to President Obama and Every Member of Congress:

I have learned many lessons in the ten years since I first raised my right hand at the United States Military Academy at West Point and committed to fighting for my country. The lessons of courage, integrity, honesty and selfless service are some of the most important.

At West Point, I recited the Cadet Prayer every Sunday. It taught us to “choose the harder right over the easier wrong” and to “never be content with a half truth when the whole can be won.” The Cadet Honor Code demanded truthfulness and honesty. It imposed a zero-tolerance policy against deception, or hiding behind comfort. Following the Honor Code never bowed to comfortable timing or popularity. Honor and integrity are 24-hour values. That is why I refuse to lie about my identity.

I have personally served for a decade under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: an immoral law and policy that forces American soldiers to deceive and lie about their sexual orientation. Worse, it forces others to tolerate deception and lying. These values are completely opposed to anything I learned at West Point. Deception and lies poison a unit and cripple a fighting force.

As an infantry officer, an Iraq combat veteran and a West Point graduate with a degree in Arabic, I refuse to lie to my commanders. I refuse to lie to my peers. I refuse to lie to my subordinates. I demand honesty and courage from my soldiers. They should demand the same from me.

I am committed to applying the leadership lessons I learned at West Point. With 60 other LGBT West Point graduates, I helped form our organization, Knights Out, to fight for the repeal of this discriminatory law and educate cadets and soldiers after the repeal occurs. When I receive emails from deployed soldiers and veterans who feel isolated, alone, and even suicidal because the torment of rejection and discrimination, I remember my leadership training: soldiers cannot feel alone, especially in combat. Leaders must reach out. They can never diminish the fighting spirit of a soldier by tolerating discrimination and isolation. Leaders respect the honor of service. Respecting each soldier’s service is my personal promise.

The Department of the Army sent a letter discharging me on April 23rd. I will not lie to you; the letter is a slap in the face. It is a slap in the face to me. It is a slap in the face to my soldiers, peers and leaders who have demonstrated that an infantry unit can be professional enough to accept diversity, to accept capable leaders, to accept skilled soldiers.

My subordinates know I’m gay. They don’t care. They are professional.

Further, they are respectable infantrymen who work as a team. Many told me that they respect me even more because I trusted them enough to let them know the truth. Trust is the foundation of unit cohesion.

After I publicly announced that I am gay, I reported for training and led rifle marksmanship. I ordered hundreds of soldiers to fire live rounds and qualify on their weapons. I qualified on my own weapon. I showered after training and slept in an open bay with 40 other infantrymen. I cannot understand the claim that I “negatively affected good order and discipline in the New York Army National Guard.” I refuse to accept this statement as true.

As an infantry officer, I am not accustomed to begging. But I beg you today: Do not fire me. Do not fire me because my soldiers are more than a unit or a fighting force – we are a family and we support each other. We should not learn that honesty and courage leads to punishment and insult. Their professionalism should not be rewarded with losing their leader. I understand if you must fire me, but please do not discredit and insult my soldiers for their professionalism.

When I was commissioned I was told that I serve at the pleasure of the President. I hope I have not displeased anyone by my honesty. I love my job. I want to deploy and continue to serve with the unit I respect and admire. I want to continue to serve our country because of everything it stands for.

Please do not wait to repeal Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. Please do not fire me.

Very Respectfully,
Daniel W. Choi

There is no excuse for Lt. Daniel Choi having to write this letter.

No matter what Senator McCain says, "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell" doesn’t work. We have fired over 13,000 military personal since 1994 due to this ass backwards policy, including 800 personnel with skills deemed “mission critical.” (As a linguist Choi falls in the "mission critical" category.) Not only have we lost these outstanding men and women, but we are spending $173.3 million to $363.8 million dollars to replace them. This is a no brainer.

For President Obama to sit idle and do nothing is a shame on his administration.

And for us to accept it is ours.

Sykes takes on the Limbaugh

I wasn’t going to get into the whole White House correspondence dinner thing, but after reading a few articles bashing Wanda Sykes I’ve decided to give my input.

In case you haven’t heard, she made a joke about Rush Limbaugh referring to his past drug use and anti-Obama comments.

Here’s the clip:

"Rush Limbaugh, "I hope the country fails." I hope his kidneys fail, how about that? He needs a good waterboarding, that's what he needs."

As usual, the thought of anyone taking a crack at Limbaugh has people everywhere concerned about the possibility of exploding brains and bleeding ear drums.

Here’s just one example of the criticism surrounding Sykes comments, from Toby Harnden:
There's not much room for differing interpretations of what Sykes said. She called Limbaugh a terrorist and a traitor, suggested that he be tortured and wished him dead.

What was his crime? Hoping that Obama's policies - which he views as socialist - will fail. That's way, way beyond reasoned debate or comedy and Obama's reaction to it was astonishing.

Imagine if a comedian "joked" that Obama was a terrorist who was guilty of treason and should be tortured and allowed to die. There would justifiably be an outcry.

I chose this comment because it clearly shows the hypocrisy of the people defending Limbaugh. While they’re busy bashing Sykes for making incendiary remarks, they’re also rationalizing Limbaugh’s incendiary remarks (that he spews everyday to millions of people).

The pathetic part is Limbaush’s not joking when he say the things he says. Though the ants will scurry around him and try to soften his racist bigoted false comments by blaming us for being “liberally brainwashed,” that doesn’t change the fact that Limbaugh has said much worse about liberals and the Democratic Party then a few jokes from Sykes.

This is a man who claimed he was defending free speech when Don Imus was fired for calling a group of girls “nappy-headed hos.”
I want to say something for the record here, folks, on April the 12th: We conservatives are the ones standing for free speech. We conservatives are the ones standing for diversity of thought and honest communication because we are not afraid of the free flow of ideas. On Don Imus being fired (12 April 2007)

I don’t think I need to point out the double standard here.

Maybe if Sykes was a wealthy white man her comments would have been better recieved. (I don't see any David Feherty defenders standing by her "free speech" rights.)

There is just no excuse for the people who defend this man day in and day out.

And isn’t this the same party that cries about how “political correctness” is ruining this country? You’re either for free speech or you aren’t. And if you aren’t for it for even the person you hate, then you aren’t for it at all.

Out of all the comments I’ve read though, I’m most disappointed in Christopher Hitchens’.

From New York Magazine:
By the end of the night, Christopher Hitchens was of course the last man (barely) standing, and he had some choice words for the evening's headlining comedian, Wanda Sykes. "The president should be squirming in his seat. Not smiling," he said. "The black dyke got it wrong. No one told her the rules."

Even though I disagree with Hitchens on many different subjects, I’ve always respected him. But this leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.

I thought this comment from one of the readers of the Tony Harnden’s article captured the moment perfectly:
A joke about Rush Limbaugh?

Oh my God!

I assume that this must be the end of Western civilisation as we knew it. Everything might be lost.

Our whole Western heritage might be lost forever.

The heritage of ancient Greek philosophy.
The heritage of the European enlightenment.
The heritage of America's founding fathers.

LOST. Forever. All of it had been in vain.

And why? Because somebody dared to laugh when someone made a joke about HIM.

Yes. About him: THE MESSIAH!

The one and only RUSH LIMBAUGH.

I think Time Magazine's Joe Klein sums up the situation nicely:

"Comedy is by definition inappropriate. I mean, this is just comedy. And we're talking about a guy in Rush Limbaugh who is inappropriate half the time I hear him on the radio."

I do want to concede a point: I agree that 9/11 isn’t something we should joke about. I also agree that her comments went a little too far, but that has nothing to do with Limbaugh. (I would feel this way no matter who Sykes was talking about.)

The most depressing part of all this is the way it’s overshadowed President Obama’s speech, which was great. He made a lot of jokes about himself and turned a lot of the silly things people say about him (in all seriousness) into jokes.

You can see it here .

I can also see Sykes whole speech here .

Monday, May 11, 2009

I think I just threw up a little

Here is an interview Carrie Prejean did with a Christian radio host:
Dobson: It sounded, Carrie, like your first reaction was to hedge, to say "Well, this is a free country" and then something took over.

Prejean: It really was a switch.

Dobson: And you did one of the most courageous things I've seen anybody your age or anybody else do. What was going on in your mind?

Prejean: I started off by saying I want to win this pageant so bad, I've worked so hard, I wanted to sound politically correct but still stay true to my values. But I just knew at that moment that God was just telling me "Carrie, how bad do you want this? Are you willing to compromise your beliefs for a one year crown of Miss USA." And I just knew right there . . . And I said you know what and the switch went off. And I said, "A marriage should be between a man and a woman and that's how it should be. "

. . . . And I knew there was no way I was going to win Miss USA. No way.

Dobson: So you put it on the line, that's what I mean when I said you're courageous because this was the goal of your life to that point. And yet you gave it up. And yet the Lord is using you all over this country.

Prejean: And we are all faced with that at times. And just by me being here, I want to encourage other people that when you're faced with an issue which you know in your heart what to say, but you're faced with someone asking it, don't ever compromise that just for pleasing them. Your goal should be to please God, not to please man . . . .

Dobson: Why did you give the answer you did with regard to the affirmation of marriage?

Prejean: . . . I felt as though Satan was trying to tempt me in asking me this question. And then God was in my head and in my heart saying, "Do not compromise this. You need to stand up for me and you need to share with all these people . . . you need to witness to them and you need to show that you're not willing to compromise that for this title of Miss USA."

And I knew right here that it wasn't about winning. It was about being true to my convictions.

You know what Prejean, god just told me that you’re full of shit.

And I didn't know god was such a breast man. Who would have guessed she got those big ol' hooters for the man upstairs?

Nerd, geek, or dork?

I was talking to Haworth, from America a view from over here, and somehow the issue of nerd vs. geek got brought up.

He said he was a geek and I said I was more of a dork.

But when he asked me what the difference was (turns out the word "dork" isn't used often in the UK), I realized I didn’t have a clue.

So, like the insatiable curious person I am, I looked it up. And I have to admit, the answer was a little depressing.

From ask yahoo:
Official definitions for nerd, geek, and dork each use the words "inept" and "foolish." Nerds have the added distinction of being "unattractive." Ouch. While it's hard to argue with the dictionary, we sought out definitions from the Internet at large.

According to, nerds are people of above-average intelligence who place little importance on their appearance. Nerds are often aware of their status, but they don't mind. In fact, many take pride in the putdown, as it means they're smart and not wrapped up in superficial worries.

Geek is a more specific term. Back in the day, geeks worked at carnivals, and (according to the dictionary) "bit the heads off live chickens." Thankfully, the term now has a different connotation. Like nerds, geeks are smart, but they tend to focus more on technology. As Urban Dictionary explains, these are the people you make fun of in high school and later work for as an adult.

Being called a "dork" is the biggest insult of the three. There's no way you can spin it into something positive. After all, even the dictionary writes that dorks are "stupid" people. And to make matters worse, dorks assume they're cool. Oh, and they smell, too.

So, to sum things up, if someone calls you a geek or a nerd, thank them. If someone calls you a dork, consider going back to school and investing in some new deodorant.

Well that’s not a great selection to choose from now is it?

I had always thought of myself as a dork since I tend to like some pretty corny/cheesy things, but I guess I was wrong. I also don’t like the “stupid” connotation dorks have. I may not be the sharpest tool in the shed, but I’m definitely not stupid. Plus, I’ve never had any notions about being “cool” or had an adverse reaction to deodorant.

“Geek” is just too specific for me. I’m also not concerned with technology. I like my gadgets as much as the next person, but I could care less about the details.

So that leaves us with “nerd.” But that’s not too great an option either because of the assumption of unattractiveness. It’s a compliment and a put down in the same breadth. Who wants that?

There are plenty of fabulous intelligent people out there and I think it’s high time we came up with something better.

Though I like to think of myself as kick asstic, it doesn't quite have the same ring as nerd or geek.

I you have any ideas I'd love to hear them.

Sunday, May 10, 2009

December 1963

This song has been stuck in my head all weekend:

(I thought about putting this in my roundup, but I really wanted to share the Jay Smooth video.)